Harnessing the Power of Criticism

source “The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” – Norman Vincent Peale My friends and I had the most hilarious conversation some time ago about the most horrible things/back-handed compliments and all-round mean things people have said to each of us over the…

Raising Children in the Diaspora

Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation ~ C. Everet Koop, M.D. Raising children has never been easy. Before the days of the global village, family was, at the furthest, a bus ride away. When one had a child, your mother would be there to hold your…

In Closing – Becoming

It took me a really long time but I finally finished Michelle Obama's book, Becoming. It was a heavy, multi-layered, slow read that required me to pause and think deeply a lot. I don't think it's everyone's cup of tea but despite some initial doubts, it turned out to be mine. About a third into…

The man who feels

I read this post on my brother’s blog and I loved it because the issue of toxic masculinity is really close to my heart. Sharing is caring. Have a read and share your thoughts.

Orphaning Out

“Because I was not superhuman, I was just a human, and my attempts to be this Superman, this Telon star, someone infallible who everyone could look at as the perfect man, were eventually my downfall…” – Terry Crews

There is something freeing about allowing yourself to feel. Taking off the mask of perfection and admitting weakness. There is a bravery to that vulnerability. I’ve been thinking about the unfortunate culture we have among men where we choose pride over vulnerability. We constantly have our walls up.. constantly have ‘everything under control’.. constantly have monster trucks on our minds (we’re not about to admit that a cat video is adorbs!)… 

It’s all very exhausting…

“There’s a bluebird in my heart that
wants to get out
but I’m too tough for him,
I say, stay in there, I’m not going
to let anybody see
you…” – Charles Bukowski

How about the fact…

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